Over the years, I’ve received a lot of questions about love and relationships. People want to know how to attract the ideal mate or how to stay in love once they’re in a relationship.
Well, before we can talk about attracting or staying in love, let’s talk about what love is because most people have a difficult time understanding it.
You see, there’s no word that adequately describes what love is. All the words in our vocabulary are three-dimensional words. Love is something that goes beyond the third dimension. Love has to do with resonance. It’s when people come together in perfect harmony on all planes of understanding.
With that said, today I’ll talk about how to attract the ideal partner. Then, in a week or two, I’ll cover how to maintain a loving relationship.
The easiest way for me to explain how to attract the right partner is to share an example with you…
A while back, I talked with a woman who said she was looking for a mate. I asked her what qualities she was looking for.
She said she wanted a man who is smart, funny, a family man… and so on. As soon as she started rattling off her list, I knew exactly why she had been having so much trouble finding the right man.
She was casting a wide net. The qualities she was looking for were so general all kinds of men would have been a match.
So I walked her through an exercise that is both beautiful in its simplicity and astonishing its power. If you’re currently looking for a significant other, I urge you to follow along.
First, I asked her to get as minutely descriptive as she possibly could about her ideal partner. I wanted her to identify the exact qualities he would possess. And, instead of thinking of a kind of person, I wanted her to imagine a specific person who already existed in the world.
The list of attributes she came up with was quite specific. Among other things, she wanted someone who lived in her city and was interested in recreational sailing. She even listed certain movies she wanted him to like.
This was perfect!
Next I asked her to draw a circle about the size of a silver dollar on a piece of paper, and then write “My Man” inside the circle.
Then, I instructed her to draw lines radiating out from the circumference of the circle—the same way you might draw the rays from the sun. And on each of those lines, I had her write one of the specific attributes she had just thought out.
I told her to spend some time right then focusing intensely on this picture—this representation of her dream man who already existed.
Finally, I told her to put it in a conspicuous place in her home, and spend time each day focusing on it—really bringing the image to life in her mind. I wanted her to see the three-dimensional person, and really feel what life with this person would be like day in and day out.
Well, you can guess what happened, can’t you?
Before long she met that dream man. He had it all, everything she was looking for—right down to the movies she wanted him to like. Eventually she married him and they had children.
I’ve shared this exercise with hundreds of people, and it works with incredible consistency. Not because of magic or luck, but because of Law.
You see, it all comes down to the Law of Attraction that we talked about last week. Remember, this universal law states that every form of matter is in a constant state of motion or vibration. These vibrations range in frequency from very high to very low, and everything in between.
You are radiating these frequencies out into the world in every moment. The rate at which you vibrate depends entirely upon your thoughts, feelings and attitudes. Positive, healthy, growth-oriented thoughts produce very high frequencies. Negative, stagnant thoughts produce a very low-level frequency.
The interesting thing about this is your frequencies are constantly seeking—or attracting—similar frequencies to connect and harmonize with. Everyday expressions like “we’re on the same wavelength” and “misery loves company” reflect this invisible energetic reality. All of us are inevitably attracted by and attracted to people who are on the same frequency as us.
So… if you’re looking for your ideal mate, start by being very clear about what you want. Then, as often as you possibly can, think about and FEEL what it be like to be with that person. Your vibration will do the rest.
To your success,
Chairman & Co-Founder
Proctor Gallagher Institute