By Bob Proctor
Can you recall the first time you came face to face with your Terror Barrier? Mine is etched on my imagination…
The first ten years of my life were spent in Owen Sound, Ontario. It’s a small town a few hours north of Toronto. I can vividly remember spending the summer days with my family at Harrison Park where there was a really great swimming pool. I would watch as the older kids went up the ladder to either jump or dive off the high diving board. They were having a great time. Wanting to be accepted by the older kids, I too went up the ladder… reluctantly, but I climbed it.
I will never forget the terror that gripped my mind and body when I looked down. Unfortunately, all the coaxing in the world wouldn’t have been sufficient to get me to jump off that board! There was no way I could do it. Feeling defeated, I climbed back down the ladder trying desperately to hide my embarrassment.
Unfortunately, not only did I lose out on the excitement and thrill that would have been gained by jumping… I also lost a little self-respect.
The problem is, fear can feel like a very real entity. What you think in your head is often acted out in your body. When faced with their Terror Barrier, people will actually break out in a cold sweat, find themselves covered in sudden hives, and even feel their hearts palpitate.
You see, your perception IS your reality! That’s how soundly your paradigms of “no” and “it can’t be done” are grounded in your Mind. Your comfortable mind will do anything it can think of to back you away from the “danger” of the unknown, just as it had me backing down those diving-board stairs.
In James Allan’s classic, As a Man Thinketh, he mentioned that fear can kill a person faster than a speeding bullet. While coming up against your Terror Barrier might not kill you physically, it certainly kills something inside you – like it did that day I stood on the diving board.
3 steps to becoming a wrecking ball on your own Terror Barrier
1. Do it scared. Just keep marching, no matter how badly your feet want to stay rooted to the ground. Refuse to permit this negative demon to control you, your emotions…your future.
2. Expect the enemy. Remember – the Terror Barrier rears its ugly head every time we attempt to make a major move in life into an area we have never traveled before. It’s as natural as day and night. Where before you used to let it stop you cold, now you can simply shrug and tell yourself, “Oh, there it is again. Well! This must really mean something great to me!”
3. Keep your eyes on the prize. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” That is excellent advice. You may not know exactly what lies on the other side of your Terror Barrier, but there’s no question that once you get there, you’ll be that much closer to your goal.
If your goal doesn’t scare and excite you at the same time, you’re going after the wrong goal. Begin to visualize yourself successfully wrecking that Terror Barrier of yours. Mentally see yourself winning, and you will liberate yourself from the crippling emotional state that the Terror Barrier causes. Remember, perception IS reality!